Rude Pregnancy Comments – a.k.a. NEVER Say these to a Pregnant Woman!

At nearly 34 weeks pregnant with twins, I was not in the mood for another round of bloodwork so when I was sent across the hall to the lab I was already in a bad mood. The one perk of being on bedrest for most of my pregnancy was that I had avoided most of the rude comments and random strangers rubbing my belly but that day I was not so lucky.

“PLEASE tell me there are twins in there!” said an older lady, not trying at all to hide the disgust in her voice.

She waved her finger at me in the general direction of my belly.

She was REALLY lucky the answer to that question was yes.

I was already tired and grumpy so I just mumbled a quick yes and walked away . . . then spent the rest of the day kicking myself for not having a snarkier answer.

“You should have said, I’m not pregnant. It’s just a weird tumor.” was my husband’s response.

Another friend suggested I should have said, “What? I’m pregnant!”

If I felt that bad after her comment and I actually was pregnant with twins, I can’t image how awful I would have felt if I had only been pregnant with one baby.

Pregnant women are a magnet for rude and weirdly inappropriate comments. I’m definitely not alone with the crazy pregnancy comments. I asked around to find out what some of the craziest things pregnant moms have had said to them. You won’t believe some of these!

Rude Pregnancy Comments

Rachel from deletingtheadjectives.com says:

I had someone ask if I was having a girl or a boy and when I said girl she said “You’re young. You can always try again for a boy.”

I had a similar experience:

I had 3 boys in a row and during my pregnancy with my third boy I can’t tell you how many times people would tell me how sorry they were. One family member came to visit us in the hospital when my third son was born and actually said, “Aww. It’s okay. You can try again for a girl later.” I was all, what’s wrong with THIS baby!

Cathie from ibloggoneit.com says:

While standing in the condiment aisle at a large grocery store chain, a woman came up to me and said, “Excuse me.” I thought she was going to ask me my opinion on what is the best ketchup or pickles because I was always getting interrupted by someone for my opinion. I have that kind of approachable face/vibe. I turned smiling and said, “Yes?” And she let it all out, “You are the BIGGEST pregnant woman I have EVER seen in my life. Are you having triplets???” I cannot even remember what I said in reply. I do recall rolling my cart away to the frozen food aisle and that’s when I went into labor with my second daughter.

 

Rachel from http://adventuresinwunderland.com says:

As this is our 4th I’ve gotten A LOT of “was this planned?”

Marina  from houseofgolds.com says:

With my first pregnancy in 2006, in an elevator:
-How far along are you?
-I’m due Nov 19
-There is no way you’re due next month. I’m only 5mos and triple your size. Please don’t tell me you’re one of those that starves themselves to stay skinny. It’s selfish and unhealthy.

I was 18 so I responded not so nicely. Now I’m 27 & pregnant with my 3rd so I know it’s best to just ignore & move along.

Katie from www.amotherthing.com says:

Probably the rudest was when someone told me during my first pregnancy that I was too old to be having my first child (I was 28) and that my “advanced age” would probably mean my child had Down syndrome. I pretty much wanted to kick the person’s teeth in. Who SAYS that?!

Kirsten from http://kirstenoliphant.com says:

“Your doctor must be wrong about your due date. There is NO WAY that you could possibly carry a baby for two more months. You’re huge!” <- yup. And no, it wasn’t twins. 

Pricilla from http://www.wheelchairmommy.com says:

There is no way you are delivering in 2 weeks!! You barely look pregnant. (it goes both way!!) frown emoticon

Brittany from http://equippinggodlywomen.com says: 

“Have you had problems with swelling? Your ankles look really swollen. They’re like cankles!!” –not swollen. just ugly ankles.” 

Thanks. 

Britt from http://www.sunshinemomma.com says: 

From the clerk at a gas station – “Are you even old enough to be pregnant?”

Unfortunately without makeup I look about 12, but why is that any of her business? Lol 

Paula from http://www.beautythroughimperfection.com says: 

“You look like you’re 14. You shouldn’t be pregnant.” 

FTR: I was 20 and had been married for over a year

Danielle from Simmworks Family says:

An older gentleman at Disneyland when I was 38 weeks pregnant asked me, “You having twins?”

I shook my head no.

He responded with, “Looks like there’s another one hiding in there”.

 

Jill from Utah Sweet Savings says: (and I can I just say how impressed I am that she ran a half marathon!!)

I was running a half marathon at 7 month pregnant and a lady on the bus to the startline asked me, “When are you due? Mile 5?”

Ashlee from ashleemarie.com says: 

I was pregnant with my 5th after a 4 1/2 year gap (my first 4 were all born within 6 years). My oldest 3 all have aspergers and we weren’t sure about the 4th, ANYWAY, when this family member found out we were pregnant she said “I think it’s incredibly selfish of you to bring another handicapped child into the world on purpose.”

Wow, just WOW, glad I know what you really think of my kids.  

Natalie from The Creative Mom says:

My grandpa likes to use the word “fat” to describe me while pregnant. They gave me some money in a birthday card (I was a week postpartum), and he said, “wait to buy you something when you aren’t fat anymore!”

Thanks grandpa.

Janet from Newspaper Grl says: 

At a blogger conference a brand spokeswoman or should I say girl was acting strange and then asked, aren’t you too old to be pregnant?

Thank you for that!

Britton from Rad Mom Cool Kid says:

When I was about 7 months along a neighbor called me and said, “I haven’t seen you in a few days so I just wanted to see if you had a miscarriage.”

At first I thought maybe it was a really awkward, off-color joke but she was serious. 

Are you having twins?!
No.
Triplets?!
I hate you.

This is your 3rd? You do know how it got in there, right?

Oh! Any day now!!
I have 20 weeks left.

Valeri from Keep up with Us Jones says:

I stayed really small for my pregnancies and you couldn’t even tell I was pregnant until I was about 8 months along with both my daughters. And so the comments coming my way were totally different, but still rude. I had a client of mine ask if I had had a miscarriage. (Understandably so… But I feel like there’s a nicer way to ask… ) I had multiple people tell me I was harming the baby by not eating enough. Or that I shouldn’t go on a diet while pregnant. -I didn’t diet, ate the amount I should, and the baby was totally healthy- or pretending like they were my doctor and saying that the baby must be in a “harsh growing environment” and not doing well. Nope, I just carry different than most. Two totally healthy babies. My blog is 

Have you ever gotten any crazy comments while pregnant? Share them with us in the comments.

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