Coping with Separation Anxiety at Preschool

Many preschoolers struggle with separation anxiety when they are dropped off at preschool. Preschool is often one of the first experiences that preschoolers have away from their parents or primary caregiver. Some preschoolers will scream or cry when they are dropped off at preschool. This could go on for weeks without any improvement. It does not mean that your preschooler is not enjoying preschool, although it is something to watch if it does not improve over time. It is very common for your preschooler to experience some separation anxiety when you leave.

Be Confident

If your preschooler is nervous about being left at preschool, it is important for you to show that you are confident that you are leaving them in a safe place. If you are nervous about leaving your preschooler they will sense it and your anxiety will heighten their fear. If you need to, give yourself a few minutes to regroup before leaving the house. Cry about your baby growing up, stress about leaving them somewhere else, do whatever it is you need to do, but do not do it in front of your preschooler.

Smile and greet your preschooler’s new teacher with confidence and show your preschooler that you trust that they will be cared for and protected while you are gone. When you hug your preschooler goodbye make sure that you are not locking them in a death grip. Give them a gentle hug and a smile.

Be Consistent

Be Prepared for Relapses

Separation anxiety is not limited to the beginning of the school year. Any change in a preschoolers life such as a new sibling, a move, or stress at home, can trigger a new string of difficult preschool drop offs. Relapses are not likely to last as long as they did at first but they can be frustration when you have already been through it. Follow the same technique that you did the first time and eventually your preschooler will regain their confidence.